The Power of Being Fully Present – Beyond Thoughts and Feelings

When we speak of being in the very present moment—“right here, right now”—we are referring to a state of awareness that exists beyond thoughts or emotions. Thoughts and emotions are largely reflections of the past or anticipations of the future, belonging to the conceptual mind. In the true immediacy of the present moment, there’s no time for thoughts to arise because thoughts require time to process, analyze, and interpret experiences.

In the present moment, when we drop into a state of full awareness, we encounter what can be called pure being. This being doesn’t have opinions, judgments, or stories attached to it—it simply is. Sensations may still arise, like the feeling of breath or a sound in the environment, but they occur without mental labeling. Instead of thinking, “this is my breath” or “I feel happy,” we just experience the sensation as it is, raw and direct.

The act of thinking and feeling actually happens after we observe the present moment. It’s like the mind needs to step back from reality, take a snapshot, and only then start analyzing or feeling something about it. But this stepping back is already a departure from the immediacy of the present.

In essence, when we are truly present in the “now,” thoughts and feelings dissolve. They only arise once we slip back into the mental framework of past or future.


Is There Research That Supports This?

Yes, scientific research supports the idea that thoughts and emotions do not arise in the same way when we are fully present. Studies in mindfulness and meditation explore how the brain functions during deep present-moment awareness.

1. Mindfulness and the Default Mode Network (DMN)

The DMN is a brain network active during mind-wandering and self-referential thinking—such as worrying or planning. When individuals practice mindfulness, the DMN’s activity decreases. This reduction corresponds to fewer intrusive thoughts and less focus on the past or future. A study by Brewer et al. (2011) found that experienced meditators showed reduced DMN activity during mindfulness, indicating that mindfulness helps people stay present and experience fewer distracting thoughts.

2. Flow State Research

Psychologist Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi popularized the concept of the flow state, which closely relates to being fully absorbed in the present moment. During flow, self-conscious thoughts fade, and there’s a suspension of reflective thinking. Research by Dietrich (2004) showed that during flow, there is suppression of the prefrontal cortex, which is linked to self-referential thinking and abstract planning. This supports the idea that reflective thoughts are minimized in the present moment.

3. Mindfulness Meditation and Brain Function

Mindfulness meditation focuses the mind on present sensations, such as breathing or body awareness. Neuroimaging studies show that during mindfulness practice, brain regions associated with self-referential thought (like the medial prefrontal cortex) become less active. Instead, sensory-processing areas become more engaged, showing that present-moment awareness brings us closer to immediate experience, reducing narrative thinking. A study by Farb et al. (2007) demonstrated that mindfulness practice shifts brain activity from narrative thinking to direct experiential awareness.

4. Present-Moment Awareness and Emotional Regulation

Mindfulness enhances emotional regulation by allowing people to “decenter” from their emotions. When we are fully present, we observe our emotions without being overwhelmed or caught up in them. A study by Garland et al. (2010) showed that mindfulness practices helped individuals disengage from emotional reactivity and engage with the present moment more effectively, resulting in improved emotional regulation.


How Does Present-Moment Awareness Offer More Behavioral Choices?

Present-moment awareness doesn’t just help us with emotional regulation—it also expands our ability to choose how we respond to thoughts, emotions, and behaviors. Here’s how:

1. Creating Space Between Stimulus and Response

Mindfulness creates a mental pause between an emotion or thought and our reaction to it. Normally, we might automatically follow a worry or emotion as soon as it arises. With mindfulness, we learn to observe the thought or feeling as a mental event, rather than reacting impulsively. As Viktor Frankl said, “Between stimulus and response, there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response.” This space allows for more conscious decision-making, whether it’s choosing to follow a thought or emotion, or to let it pass.

2. Decentering from Thoughts and Emotions

Mindfulness teaches us to recognize that we are not our thoughts or feelings—they are temporary experiences passing through our awareness. When we practice present-moment awareness, we can see emotions like worry for what they are—just passing thoughts—not facts that must be followed. This gives us the freedom to decide whether or not to engage with the thought or let it go.

3. Emotional Regulation Through Present-Moment Awareness

Present-moment awareness enhances emotional regulation by reducing over-identification with emotions. For instance, a small worry can snowball into anxiety when we get caught up in a thought spiral. Mindfulness interrupts this by decreasing activity in the amygdala (the brain’s emotional center) and increasing activity in the prefrontal cortex, which governs decision-making. This means we are less likely to react impulsively and more likely to respond with intentionality.

4. Shifting from “Doing Mode” to “Being Mode”

Much of our worry comes from the mind’s tendency to always be in doing mode—trying to solve problems, fix issues, or anticipate challenges. In contrast, being mode is about simply observing the present moment without trying to change or fix anything. In this state, we acknowledge thoughts and feelings like worry but recognize that we don’t have to react to them.

5. Behavioral Flexibility and Value-Based Actions

When we’re present, we gain more behavioral flexibility. Instead of being driven by automatic emotional responses, we can assess whether our thoughts and feelings align with our values. This flexibility allows us to choose actions that reflect our long-term values rather than reacting to short-term emotional triggers. For example, if your value is being present with your family, mindfulness helps you notice when worry arises and choose to redirect your attention back to your family, rather than getting lost in anxious thoughts.


Conclusion

Present-moment awareness, cultivated through mindfulness, opens up more options in how we respond to our emotions and thoughts. Instead of being driven by automatic emotional reactions, we learn to observe thoughts and feelings without attachment, creating space for intentional and value-based choices. In this way, we gain greater emotional balance, clarity, and flexibility, allowing us to live with more purpose and less reactivity. This approach can be applied to any area of life, whether you're dealing with worry, stress, or decision-making. By practicing mindfulness, we move away from past- and future-oriented thinking and enter a space of greater freedom and choice.

Is it possible that worry and anxiety are arrogant attributes as they are often selective?

The idea that worry and anxiety could be seen as arrogant attributes due to their selective nature is an intriguing perspective. Here's a way to explore this concept:

Worry and anxiety often center around specific concerns, which can reflect a narrow focus on particular outcomes or scenarios.

This selectiveness may stem from a deeper desire to control or predict the future, emphasizing the importance of certain aspects of one's life while neglecting others. From this viewpoint, such selective attention might be seen as a form of arrogance, as it implies an overestimation of one's ability to foresee and manage future events.

When the worry, a fear and associated anxiety impact the quality of our life in this present moment, then there is benefit in managing that anxiety. Anxiety, worry and fear are normal human reactions to life events. It's when it gets out of control that it becomes problematic in our day to day life. When I questioned, in a way, is it arrogant to worry too much, I was hinting at the worries my clients have that motivates them to reach out for support. Many clients are so stuck to a worry, fear, a problem that they cannot separate themselves from it. But when I ask if they may be worried that at any time they may have an aneurisym, a heart attack, the roof might fall in, I'm often met with a perplexed look and the answer 'no'. That's why worry is often selective. Ultimately we have no control over the future. Any of these events may happen. If we can factor that in, in our day to day lives and then hold on 'lightly' to those potential worries and concerns, fears and associated anxiety, we then allow more of our energy to go into what is actually happening right here, right now.


Anxiety and worry often involve an implicit belief that one's thoughts and concerns are of utmost importance, overshadowing the broader context of life. This could be perceived as a kind of self-centeredness, where the individual's immediate fears and doubts take precedence over a more balanced, holistic understanding of their circumstances.

However, it's essential to approach this perspective with compassion and understanding. Anxiety and worry are natural human responses to uncertainty and perceived threats. They often arise from deeply ingrained survival mechanisms and can be exacerbated by various psychological, environmental, and biological factors.

Acknowledging the potential for arrogance in worry and anxiety doesn't mean diminishing the genuine distress they cause. Instead, it can offer a path toward greater self-awareness and humility. By recognizing the selective nature of these emotions, individuals can work towards a more mindful and expansive view of their lives, cultivating a sense of acceptance and balance, no matter what is happening. Perceived suffering can often be the gateway to beneficial life changes that would not have been explored had it not been for the 'suffering'.

This approach aligns with the principles of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), which encourages embracing thoughts and feelings without letting them dominate one's actions, fostering a broader perspective on life's challenges. And of course regularly 'checking-in' throughout the day by stopping, a couple of slower breaths, checking our thoughts, scanning our body, getting a sense that we are more grounded in the present moment, right here, right now, and from there deciding what comes next in our day. More worry? I doubt it.

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